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Snow Flower and the Secret Fan


Wow I just finished this book and wanted to come write about it immediately so I don t forget how it made me feel First off the language is beautiful and so fitting for the context The two girls Snow Flower and Lily have a friendship that is beautiful and is fun to pick out little pieces from my own childhoodcurrent friendships that I ecognize and adore My next thoughts are not necessarily critiues of the book but of the way the Chinese thought I had a eal problem with hearing over and over how worthless a woman is if she cannot produce a
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If That Still Case If that were still the case would be worthless as they come It bothered me that daughters were considered better off if they died than to live And I thought Lily perpetuated that as unfeeling as the patriarchs who instilled that thought process to begin with And don t get me started on footbinding I know this is a cultural thing that I cannot begin to comprehend such as people who think that is just the way life is but still how could they not think this through I mean one of of ten girls died from footbinding And not only does it make the foot look grotesue which they thought was beautiful but they were practically crippled for the est of their lives They had to be carried most distances after the age of six It s simply idiculous But eading this book made me want to learn to embroider I know it sounds idiculous but I was actually looking for embroidery classes in the area where I could learn how to do it And I want to do it with my daughter The visual of these women embroidering together It s just beautiful There were so many beautiful uotes that I thought I d list my favoritesThis thought is a eal comfort to me Everyone knows that part of the spirit descends to the afterworld while part of it emains with the family but we have a special belief about the spirit of a young woman who has died before her marriage that goes contrary to this She comes back to prey upon other unmarried girls not to scare them but to take them to the afterworld with her so she might have company This is particarly interesting to me because after my daughter died Biance would tell me about going to heaven with Miranda every night while she dreamed Another uote I liked about teachersThe classics tell us that in elationships the one between teacher and student comes second only to the one between parent and childThe last one is a bit lengthy but I like it nonethelessIf it is perfectly acceptable for a widow to disfigure herself or commit suicide to save face for her husband s family why should a mother not be moved to extreme action by the loss of a child or children We are their caretakers We love them We nurse them when they are sick But no woman should live longer than her children It is against the law of nature If she does why wouldn t she wish to leap from a cliff hang from a branch or swallow lyeOverall this was a sad beautiful book My grandmother used to say that my big feet meant I had a good foundation I d stare longingly at her size six feet when she said this and curse my genetic inheritance from elsewhere in the family tree Then I had an ex boyfriend make the infuriating statement that Einatmen, Ausatmen rich women have small feet I pointed out that his celebrity crush Paris Hilton yeah anothereason I dumped him has huge size eleven feet My teenage self took a lot of comfort in the fact that foot size is pre ordained and unchangeable Clown sized feet can strike the smart the ich the beautiful And there isn t a damned thing they or I could do about itThen I ead this book and learn it is possible to change your foot size It s called foot binding And you know what I ll pass I enjoy being able to wiggle my toes and jump around So thank you Lisa See For once in my life I am content with my big feet And I owe it all to your graphic descriptions of this ancient Chinese method Blood putrefaction pain breaking bones Lightfoot the Historian: The Nature and Role of History in the Life and Thought of J.B. Lightfoot (1828-1884) as Churchman and Scholar risk of death I cannot believe those women were subjected to such brutal mutilation for the sake of beauty Then they were still expected to clean the house perched on those tiny unstable feetThe foot binding portion of the book was the highlight for me The inspiration for the book was nu shu a written language developed by Chinese women and kept secret from men for hundreds of years Yawn I didn t find that part of the story very compelling or even believable Didn t men wonder why the ladies kept ink and brushes in theiroom Beyond the foot biding event and nu shu device this was eally a story about a female friendship that was deep and even erotic at times Putting asid. Lo sfondo è la Cina del XIX secolo uando mogli e figlie ancora avevano i piedi bendati e vivevano in uno stato di isolamento pressoché totale uando le donne di una emota contea dello Hunan icorrevano a un codice segreto per comunicare tra loro e si scambiavano lettere tracciate .
E any problems with the plot their emotions toward each other were complex and meaningful There was hope and joy but mostly there was pain During an event with Lisa last night she spoke of how depressing writing can be She doesn t always wake up aring to write Instead she may dread knowing she has to go to a dark internal place to write about a character s death or betrayal Even worse she may have to stay in that mindset for days or weeks until that section is completely written I spend so much time glamorizing a writer s lifestyle that I had
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fully considered glamorizing a writer s lifestyle that I had not fully considered how draining it could be I suspected the career engenders self doubt Will people like what I ve written Yet I had never thought about the struggle Lisa described to create and inhabit the internal emotional environment necessary to produce the actual wordsI commend Lisa for giving us a Dahmer Detective: The Interrogation and Investigation That Shocked The World realistic look at the treatment of and expectations for women in that day and age Women were isolated and undervalued Their worth was determined solely by whether they could produce sons But honestly my main complaint about the book is how depressing it was I kept waiting for some great act of heroism Yet the women stuck to their traditionaloles The main character not only 20th Century Photography: Museum Ludwig Cologne repeated the indoctrination she believed it Myole in life is to obey obey obey Sure they ebelled in small ways but always within the confines of their societal oles I kept outing for one character to leave an abusive husband or at very least stand up to her oppressive mother in law Normally I criticize authors for deviating from historical facts in order to cater to a modern #READERSHIP THIS TIME I THINK LISA #This time I think Lisa so true to the setting that she turned me off And her heavy handed foreshadowing didn t help Life was hard for women back then I get it But does that make for an enjoyable ead Not Mise En Sc�ne: Cin�ma Et Lecture really And I think that was my problem I had the wrong expectations as I entered this book It wasn t a sprawling historical epic filled with exciting action heart flutteringomance and distant voyages like Shogun one of the few other historical fictions I have Deathless read that are set in Asia It was a largely uiet book about uiet life Lisa herself admitted she writes sad books And when she started this book no one thought it would be successful China Women Gloom No one willead that Well she proved them wrong Lots of people ead it Heck I ead it Even people will probably see the movieAnd it s worth eading It made me appreciate the freedom women enjoy today as well as the potential depth of female friendship Not to mention I m looking down at my feet ight now and thinking hell yeah that s one beautiful ergonomic piece of evolution and just the The Third Lynx (Quadrail, right size For my entire life I longed for love I knew it was notight for me as a girl and later as a woman to want or expect it but I did and this unjustified desire has been at the Mixed Doubles root of every problem I have experienced in my lifeWhat a sad yet beautiful book this was I adore historical fiction that caneally immerse me in another time and place and Snow Flower and the Secret Fan did just that Transported back to 19th century China I believe I arrived at a better understanding of a woman s position in this society I learned what it was like to be a daughter a sister a wife and a daughter in law I am admittedly grateful for not ever having to experience these often overwhelmingly harsh elationships in the way that these women did Not for an instant can I imagine having to yearn for my mother s love with the feeling that it was something impossible to attain And I most certainly could not fathom bending to my mother in law s every command and needing to act as a lowly visitor in her home even as the wife of her own son The cultural practice of footbinding was truly horrific and cringeworthy If you like me decide to google any images please consider yourself forewarned that it eally does look as awful and disfiguring as you would no doubt imagine Yet a young girl s future and her marriageability depended heavily on the Von Dr. Jakobsen bestraft - SM Krimi (Teil 3) result of this archaic practice The oneelationship that I found endearing and one that transcends both time and culture is that of a true friendship This is so beautifully demonstrated in the bond between the narrator Lily and Snow Flower her old same Lisa See Raja Smurf (Smurf, really brings to life the nuances of their lifelong friendship which began as little girls with a contract sealing their fates in a laotongelationship A laotong match is as significant as a good marriage A laotong Zwanzig Männer sind genug relationship is made by choice for the purpose of em. Pennello sui ventagli o messaggiicamati sui fazzoletti per condividere speranze sogni e conuiste E uno di uesti ventagli porta ancora il segreto del tragico euivoco che ha amaramente segnato un legame lungo una vita uello tra Giglio Bianco e Fiore di Neve la sua laotong l'amica de.
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Otional companionship and eternal fidelity A marriage is not made by choice and has only one purpose to #have sons we see the girls grow up #sons We see the girls grow up and experience the joys of childhood friendship laughing dreaming and mourning together The women s secret form of writing or nu shu begins with the communication between the "little girls on the folds of a special fan that will provide a chronicle of their extraordinary elationship throughout "girls on the folds of a special fan that will provide a chronicle of their extraordinary The Frankenstein Teacher (Corgi Pups) relationship throughout lives As married women they experience both the happiness and the sorrow of giving birth and living under the heavy thumbs of their husbands and mothers in law in households that scornather than cherish them And as with some friendships these women experience the differences in social standings within a community and suffer from misunderstandings and ultimate betrayal Can a friendship The Case of the General's Thumb really withstand anything This is a wonderful book for anyone interested in the culture of China during this period and those that enjoyeading about the various connections between women If you ve ever had a true friend this book will truly speak to you and perhaps make you just a tad nostalgic about the carefree days when you could hope and giggle with your own bestie I tried to ead it It was so non compelling who were these little mice of women what were they up to why should I care MAKE ME CARE The plot didn t the characters didn t and so I couldn t get past about page 50 My mind kept drifting off and by the time I was conscious of eading again I wouldn t know what had happened so I had to eread it again and again up unto the fourth ereading of the same pages Exactly the same experience I had with Rushdie s Satanic Verses So I gave up I thought it was probably me and not the book so I downloaded the film Lord was it bad or what Exactly the same experience it wasn t any interesting It s an experience I m not going to have with the Satanic Verses though I doubt there s a director still alive brave enough to make a film of that book I ended up enjoying this book because it was so beautifully written and it took me deep into a world so unlike my own thank goodness for that This story takes place in China s Hunan Province in the 1800s and is about the inner lives of the women than the men I had a complete misconception of what foot binding entailed It s completely different and so much brutal a practice than I ever could have imagined There were also many examples given of what I consider other horrendous customs and beliefs I ve always believed that tradition and culture that harms is not worth preserving and An Architectural Guidebook to Los Angeles reading about these people s lives was a painful experience The story is fiction but wellesearched so I m assuming there was much truth about how women led their lives in that time and place I was able to feel some empathy for the storywriter because I could understand her longing to be loved and the difficulties she had in her upbringing that formed her personality even though I sometimes had a hard time liking her and many of the characters I was also irritated by so much of the book I loathe stories where there s a horrible miscommunication or misunderstanding that seems so unnecessary and there s an example of that here Also throughout the book the narrator is writing the story of her life for anotherothers in her culture to Echoes from the Past read yet the whole time I felt she was educating us in our time places So freuently the line as you know or as everyone knows is used to start a sentence and I just kept thinking that if everyone knows it the narrator wouldn t need to say it in that way The narrator also most of the way through the book alludes to something she s going to tell theeader and it got to the point where instead of following along with the story I just wanted to see what she was going to The Master Strategist: Power, Purpose and Principle in Action revealI think that it s worth it toead the paperback copy because of Lisa See s notes at the end about the writing of this book Perhaps they were there in the hardcover version as well but often additions such as this aren t there at publication of the hardcover edition Also the paperback has some discussion uestions at the end which might come in handy as I ead this book for my book clubThe plot characters did make me think about however women Are Regarded And What regarded and what considered beautiful in various cultures including our own can powerfully influence women s lives And they also highlight how our various expectations of ourselves and others imposed by our societies can influence human beings It also made me think a lot about the corrosive power of unresolved anger and traum. 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